I failed some exams where I didn’t even come close to my expectations. It was devastating. After that, all the thoughts that went through my head saw me as a total failure. Soon I wondered if I could expect anything less than a wholly ruined life. Would suicide be a way out? Expecting more defeat is the biggest enemy to man. Consequently, expecting more failure made me work even less. I seemed doomed to failure no matter my efforts.
Some kind-hearted people said, “You’ll do better next time.” They didn’t know just how hard I had tried or why my expectations were so crushed. Some said, “You just have to work harder” or “Just be persistent, you’ll make it.” Those comments don’t help when all I was thinking was negative.
I wondered: Is there a method of overcoming defeat with real successes? There is and I want to share it with you. If you’re still reading think about this: “Though I cannot change my circumstances I can indirectly change them by the way I think.” It will not happen overnight, but usually at the end of 21 days you will have found a tangible measure of success which will grow. It works like this and it’s called, “Focus.” Whatever we focus on we are likely to hit. If you ride a motor bike and focus on an object in the road you’re more likely to hit it than to avoid it. Therefore, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable—if there is any moral excellence and if there is any praise—dwell on these things. It’s just like that.
Mumbai, India – by Ishmeet Singh Madaan